Welcome to consciouslylovingme.com
My name is Fiona Gillespie and I help people to navigate their own relational traumas, so we can learn to feel safe in our bodies and open our hearts to a love that feels mature and secure.
Taking Powerful Steps Towards Healthier, Emotionally Fulfilling, Nourishing Relationships
A Personal Insight Of My Own, Previous Struggles with relationships
“I grew up with a violent older brother, a dad who was emotionally unavailable, a mum who was a serial people pleaser & passive aggressive and found myself in an abusive relationship in my own family home at the tender age of 14. At 15 I took an overdose of Paracetamol as a cry for help. I took recreational drugs for 20 years but gave up at 32 (16 years ago) and alway’s struggled with romance!
It was only until I experienced a spiritual awakening (8 years ago) and I was told very specifically by spirit to heal, so I could help others, that i started to look inwards at myself and my past traumas. I looked at and felt EVERYTHING and have taken my own powerful steps to change my own unhelpful patterns of thinking and behaviours by working with my own central nervous system, reparenting myself, created new neural pathways and used self enquiry work to look at my own limiting beliefs that create my own reality and this work goes on. It’s a lifestyle that has to be embraced if we want to see and be a part of positive change. It all starts with us! Hence the name “Consciously Loving Me” we must learn all ways to love and honour ourselves if we want to see that reflected in our reality when creating the relationships we desire.”
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Have you heard of “Attachment Theory” & “Co-Dependency”? Learning about these things really helped me to understand what was going on inside of myself and many others. If we have developed attachment issues, it’s likely we’ll attract other people with similar issues. We tend to operate from survival (fear based behaviours). This is what plays a big part in the struggles we face when it comes to romantic relationships and how we navigate them and sometimes sabotage them. However whilst an understanding of these personality types we may have adapted is amazing, we also have to learn how to navigate them inside of ourselves by going back to previous traumas, feeling our feelings and reparenting ourselves and questioning the untrue beliefs we gave to ourselves about the situation, the other people involved and OURSELVES so we can to relate in different, more secure ways & help co-create healthier dynamics with other people.
A person who’s emotional and physical needs were met as an infant have connection and belonging woven through the fibre of their being, creating secure attachment. If our need’s weren’t met by our caregivers then we will have guilt and shame due to internalised, untrue beliefs, about ourselves woven through the fibre of our being and these will constantly be triggered by those around us, provoking behaviours of sabotage IF we aren’t able to relate to younger parts of ourselves with the love, understanding and compassion we so deserve & desire from the outside.
It all starts from within and how we navigate our relationship to ourselves!
Are your relationships out of balance?
Do you feel like you alway’s give too much to other people, but only get very little back?
Do you want to run every time the going gets tough only to regret it and get swallowed up by obsessive thoughts afterwards?
Do you constantly fight with those around you, leaving yourself completely drained?
Does life in general just feel hard work & very unfair?
All this can be changed in positive ways.
I PROMISE!
Here are the steps to working with me…
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Book A Free Intro-Chat With Me
(Just shoot me a DM on the socials and let’s connect)
2.
See How I can Support You
Our Intro Chat carries no obligations.
It’s simply to see if we’re a good fit to work together and find the best way that I can assist your journey. They are 30 mins and FREE.
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Click onto one of these and shoot me a message….. simple 🙂
Expressions of Gratitude
Stefania Tinti
Client
“I had the most amazing healing session with Fiona this morning, channelling my higher-self energy and really achieving great awareness.
I felt I could channel Self- Love into the wholeness of my body and I am forever grateful to the way she held the space for me in the session, by intervalling silence with safety and just using the right statements for me to get the awareness I needed, so I could step forward.
Thank you so much Fiona, you’re an amazing practitioner and so kind-hearted.”
Sade Imoru
Client
“Fiona is the most understanding and empathic person I have ever met.
I’ve had counselling and many types of therapy from all sorts of mental healthcare professionals in my life and Fiona is the first person I’ve spoken with where I have felt fulfilled, listened to and truly helped.
Absolutely incredible woman and would recommend to everyone who needs a helping hand in any area of their life x.”
QUICK QUESTION…
Can you picture yourself right now…
Being completely honest with those around you and really saying what is going on for you emotionally?
Or does that create feelings of huge discomfort in your body? Do you even know what it’s like to fully be yourself? Or is hiding parts of you so normal, you just can’t picture being different to that? OR Do you feel like you can speak up for yourself BUT it doesn’t make any difference leaving you feeling hopeless?
All this discomfort is what needs your own love and attention, my love & the way we express our truth matters we just have to learn how.
Our Lost Inner Voice
Some of us were so taught to ignore our own intuition & mental & physical health.
Suppressing feelings and emotional needs is what causes so much turmoil inside because our body just want’s us to take notice, listen and act but this is a new language we have to teach ourselves to start to create harmony.
We have to work out who is really under all that suppression and get radically honest, which can bring up a real sense of fear. But i can show you how to come back HOME to YOU create more peace within, balance & stability, so that can get reflected back to us outside of ourselves.
Our reality is a reflection of our own internal world.
Our worthiness is not determined by anything outside of ourselves but if we have an insecure attachment we will make situations that happen outside of ourselves mean something about us & therefore believe our value goes up or down dependant on how others feel about us. In times of trauma we give ourselves untrue beliefs about ourselves that are constantly reinforced in our reality because we unconsciously seek out events and make them fit whatever untrue belief it is we have running about ourselves, reaffirming our sense of unworthiness. But our reality has no built in meaning. Only the meaning we give it. Our worthiness has the potential to be embodied through the inner work & a strong connection to our own truth and having complete faith in ourselves that everything is happening exactly as it should do and the more we lean into this understanding & the work, the more we’ll seek out situations that affirm how worthy we are and always have been. It can be like pure MAGIC and feel so deliciously good!
You just have to get reacquainted with YOURSELF in a new way.
I’ve been where you are & transformed many areas of my life for the better!
And I Iearned the techniques and wisdom to transform my own self on my journey of self-discovery and empowerment.
I have Transformed-
A 20 year recreational drug addiction
Body Dysmorphia
People Pleasing Tendencies
Co-Dependant Behaviours
And an Anxious/ Avoidant attachment issue
and have called in my own gorgeously, loving husband. After spending my years of my life believing that a healthy, loving relationship was not going to be part of my existence here in this lifetime.
And I am so confident that I can guide you & pass everything i’ve learned in my 8 year journey onto you, in just a small fraction of the time it took me, in this very important stage of your own evolutionary journey. Just like I have already for many other people who have been stuck in the same cycles of low self worth.
I’ll help you transform and grow in ways you never thought possible and support to stand in your own POWER!
YOU ARE NOT ALONE.
You are divine and you have the power to transform anything & attract what you desire! All you have to do is show up for yourself!
When you work with me, I’ll support you.
To discover new, healthy ways to live your life and love yourself fully, sharing that with others.
Heal and Awaken.
You deserve a relationship where you feel seen & heard, cherished and loved for the real, authentic version of YOU!
